Thursday, 23 April 2009

Is sexually abused!


Imagine one of your best friends calling you to tell you that she is holding her best news ever!
What do you think her best news would be?!
Since I know A very well, I had many things in mind.
1. She will finally be engaged to the guy she chose not her parents.
2. She got the job she has been dreaming of.
3. Her brother came back from abroad.
4. Her weight became what she desired it to be.
5. No more back aches since her devastating fall.
So many things were roaming in my mind. I was begging her to shoot it out until she did!! I wasn't shocked when she told me about it but didn't expect that! Her best news was that she has done the Virginity Test and she turned out to be Virgin!!
I was lost for words, really speechless but then I started screaming like crazy which made my driver stop in the middle of the way because he freaked out thinking something happened to me!!
I know this option might have never occured to you and is quiet shocking but that's the turth!! A was sexually abused by two of her male relatives when she was a child, her brother and uncle!! That happened repeatedly from her uncle more than her teenaged brother! What she rememberes vividly is her uncle asking her not to wear pants when he is around! Why!! I leave it for you to do the imagination concerning a 8 years old girl with a 25 years old man who is supposingly an uncle to her!!
P.S. Part 2 is coming soon when I feel like writing about it because I really wanna do it!

31 comments:

Saudi Dawn said...

o.O

Alive enough to be here said...
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Alive enough to be here said...

It shows how monster's side people have. When it's supposed from the nearest people to be protective, they turned to be attackers! I wouldn't like to cry over past matters now, like I usually do, but all responsibility lay on parents. If they are close enough to their daughter, they will know about this from the first place it happened. You were in shock for just listening to her story let alone, she, the one who were a victim. This girl is a prey and she deserves from, not only from you, but from all people to support her and to stand her side.

Euphoria said...

Ya La6eef!

CrazyCatQ8 said...

:( ba3ad 3omrey walla

Mina said...

Omg poor girl...people are such monsters her own brother and uncle Subhanallah:(

I hope Allah protects her from such monsters and that she gets the love and support from her family and friends...

asoom said...

I guess then the best news ever in part 2 was that this guy was eaten by a shark while swimming in the ocean....right?

hijabee said...

SubhanaAllah, brother and uncle to an 8 years old! How sick are people these days! Please tell me they're in jail or something! This is horrible!

Maqsood Qureshi said...

Counseling helps.
Resources available on the Net.

His Sweetheart said...

Saudi Dawn
Many scenes have been ommitted my dear!

Alive enough to be here
I am always beside her :)

Euphoria
:(

carzy q8cat
7beebty wallah

Mina
Ameen ya rab

Asoom
Both are alive but full of problems!

hijabee
She couldn't tell anybody about them. When she finally told her mom about it afew years ago, her moma asked her to let go!

His Sweetheart said...

Maqsood
elhamdullah, she doesn't need that. Such a thing made her stronger!

Another-Penelope said...

I'm so interesting about this topic, I had done some research about rape in kuwait and I've heard enough about some families hidden their privacy, even a mother knows when a daughter confess her before getting married that one of our relatives had inter sexual with her or bfs and stuff, nothing new really, but it is just shocking absolutely that OMG they're kids. ill be waiting for part 2. hey how come i dont see you around :/

Faith said...

I'm not suprised. It's more common than people think. All I know is when I have kids of my own, I'm keeping a close eye on them. After all, the abuser is almost always a close family member.

May Allah save us from such people.

Hijabis On Ranting Tour. said...

errrrrm omg
so why does she want her brother to return?
i would like despise him
and wow shes a virgin
wow
aww :)
salaamz
naz
waitin 4 part 2

SouS said...

UNFORTUNATELY, this is not the first time i have heard or read about this in our society. allah Yisami7hom, God gave them a responsibilities, this is what they show for it, how will they ever explain themselves in front of him!

Anonymous said...

A friend told me about her abuse by her uncle when she was kid. She couldn't do anything and neither could her mom.

It horrifies me to even wonder how many such cases are there here in Kuwait...

PaLoMiNo said...

el7mdellah:)
umbeh shlon 3elqt-ha el7een with her uncle & brother?!

Ansam said...

SICK PEOPLE! Urghhhhhhh
Those people should be locked up! Did she talk to family about it? I am sure she didnt.. maskeena

بغالة حوشي said...

reading ur thread just brought back such awful memories ... it actaully happened to some1 i know just few years ago alla yel3anhom enshalla they are animals

coralbead said...

Salaam! I'm new here...I deeply sympathize with your friend...because I was a victim too. I was only 5 then and my uncle, let's just say I was lucky that my innocence is still intact.

I wasn't able to tell my mom, because I was afraid, he was her brother. I will never have the chance to do so, ever, because my uncle is already dead for so many years now.

I hope your friend gets over the whole thing and live a peaceful life.

His Sweetheart said...

Another-Penelope
I am here and there but not in the mood for blogging recently

Hijabis On Ranting Tour.
It's another brother of hers my dear

Sous
I ask myself that question a lot!

His Sweetheart said...

Anonymous
It's everywhere my dear!

PaLoMiNo
Her uncle is almost dead to her and her family. She is doing OK with her brother since he asked her or forgiveness

Ansam
She confessed that 2 years ago only lamma fat elfoot

بغالة حوشي
ameeen

coralbead
I can totally relate to that. Hope you're doing well sweetie

His Sweetheart said...

Another-Penelope
I have been wondering why haven't you updated in a month!! When I clicked in your blog, I found out that it has been erased! Have you moved somewhere else sweetie!

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just a bunch of thoughts said...

incest & rape are 2 of the saddest things in life .. really, nobody can really feel the victim's pain unless they've been victims as well. no one can fully muster or understand the mind of a rapist ...

my heart goes out to all victims in the world ...
& to the criminals ...

7sby Allah 3alikom ...

im so happy for ur friend, (i thought she would tell u something bad happened to her attackers like they went to jail for ex). i hope she's doing well dealing with this utterly sad matter. u r a good friend, otherwise she wouldnt tell u her secret. im sure it must have been very hard for her to tell.
be always with her.

im sooo sickened right now.

i can never get it.

why?


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this is my first time here, & even though my mood has certainly changed, im glad i discovered this blog.

looking up for part 2.

Question: did u take permission from ur friend to write about her story?

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to coralbead:
i hope ur doing well sweety. im proud of u for being so brave to tell. Never be ashamed.

eshda3wa said...

oh my god
i feel sick!

frogman said...

wallah that is very sad... 7amdillah at least there was some sort of silver lining... and i agree with everyone.. you must be very close for her to trust you with something like this..

Stand-Alone~ said...

al7amdulliah jat salima, but oh my god.. the worst thing is that it is from your family.. My god, the brother and uncle.. this is so sick...

DeSeRt RoSe said...

You got an award waiting sweetie :)

http://desertrosebooklogue.blogspot.com/2009/04/super-comments-award-you-dont-say-3.html

His Sweetheart said...

Frogman
Thank you :)

Stand Alone
El7mdellah it's all right now :)

Desert Rose
Thank you

Hijabis On Ranting Tour. said...

@ his sweetheart
aha ok i understand now darling:)
im so sorry 4 her
salaamz
naz